My father died on Monday. I arrived 3 hours before, and was holding his hand as he died. He lived long enough to see photos of his second grandson, and recognized me when I arrived.

In case there is anyone reading who knew him, I enclose the death notice that my mother and I put in the newspaper. I intend to make a website as a memorial.

WILSON, FRANCIS ERIC passed away peacefully at home [address] on 1 September 2008 aged 77. His generous heart gave out at last. Loved husband of Renee, father of Mark, father-in-law of Golbon and grandad of Yusef and Yahya. Privately cremated. Donations in lieu of flowers to Nelson Regional Hospice Trust or NZ Heart Foundation. He drank deeply from the well of life, and took the final curtain with aplomb.

It is a strange feeling to be the “patriarch” as someone said to me today – childhood now feels officially over. It certainly has given me resolve to look after my health and try to be around until my children are 70.